#79 - One powerful question

The only thing to look for to change your life

Today’s edition is quite juicy. The theme throughout is understanding who you are and why it is essential to make sure you thrive and excel at everything you do.

In the article I look at the habit of looking for the right way of doing things (and why we’ll never find it), when instead the only way to get unstuck and thrive is to reconnect with the greatness in ourselves, regardless of the circumstances.

I’ll share some pointers that will hopefully be useful to move from concept to actual felt experience and transformation.

After that, I also share a poem that came to me the other day and left me in awe and a 5 minute podcast where I share an experiment in listening you can try to that might open up new potential for connection even if “you’re not good at small talk”.

Have fun, and go change the game!

Nico

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One powerful question

There is one powerful question that never ceases to provide us with gifts. When we’re stuck, when we’re struggling, when we think we’re doing OK but suspect there might be more. When we have dreams, goals or objectives that excite us but we’re not making as much progress as we’d like. When we’re dealing with unexpected events in our life and we don’t know what to do.

But first, it’s essential to know which questions are NOT it. As you’ll go through the list, you may find that these tend to be the first questions we ask ourselves in those situations:

• how do I do this right? What’s the right way?

• what’s wrong with me?

• how can I be better/stronger/more confident?

• how do I find my path through this?

…and so on. If you are anything like me, you know at least some of those questions all too well. And what they all have in common is “seeking”. Looking for something missing; and looking for it “out there”. The idea that there is a right way (of doing things, or of being) paralyzes us and gets us stuck, simply because we will never find anything like the right path. It doesn’t exist.

This very publication is called No Way, as a reminder of this truth.

But what happens as we drop all that seeking for a way through? We can find a way in.
I sometimes call this “dropping the K”, to go from seeking, to seeing.